Grindr, Scruff, Tinder to name a few! 95% of us gay men have logged into at least one or multiple gay hook-up apps! But can a hook-up app help you whilst travelling or do they just take time away from seeing a new destination?
Those of us that use them whilst at home know how you can spend hours scrolling through a catalogue of filtered photos of people looking for a range of things, from drinks and friends to dates and sex. In my experience its also filled with a lot of time wasters and sometimes fake profiles. Why? I will never know!
Hook-up Apps At Home
As you can guess from the above I’m not the biggest believer in finding much from these apps, in-fact I only have Grindr installed, but yes these apps are addictive and I still click on to the app 2 or 3 times a day, praying for a normal conversation! It’s so easy to start a conversation and talk to anyone, the thing is, you can’t really tell what a person is like from a message, you can’t hear their pitch, tone, pace or see their body language towards you. Yes, we have emoji’s but it still won’t replace the lost connection people use to have when meeting in a bar.
Hook-up Apps Whilst Travelling
The Plus Side
I think when travelling and visiting a new country or even a new city in your own country, especially on your own these hook-up apps can really help you to get the best from any city. Think about it, you have a catalogue of local men and other gay tourists who know the city better than any tour book or blog and can give you up to date and off the grid information.
It’s important to Just be honest on what you’re looking for on your profile. Tell people you’re travelling and looking for what events are on, activities and sights to see and ask for any recommendations they may have. It’s also a really good way to meet up with other travellers that are not staying at your hostel or accommodation. Some of the people I have met whilst travelling are now considered some of my best friends. For your safety make sure you get to know the people you’re chatting to first and always stay safe. Meet in a busy place like a bar or café and if something doesn’t seem right make sure you have an exit plan. Safety should be your number one priority.
Spending too much time glued to your phone and missing that amazing place you have gone to visit. Just like at home there are time wasters all over the world, that will talk, talk and talk and then nothing. These apps just like Facebook and Instagram can be addictive so limit your usage and see the country you’re visiting.
I really hate it when you’re halfway through a really good conversation and the other person stops replying (I’m sure they are just busy) but then reply again several hours later after the time to do anything tourist-like has passed.
Depending on where you’re visiting as well will depend on the type of people you also get on the apps. In Thailand, for example, I got a lot of “MB” (Money Boys) wanting me to pay them for services, but don’t be put off I also got chatting to loads of lovely local Thai lads too. Another thing to keep in mind is that homosexuality is illegal in over 70 countries around the world with some people even setting up fake profiles to catch and beat members of the LGBT+ community.
The Apps Overall
As long as using these apps isn’t going to take time away from your travel plans and enhances your trip, do it. I mean you can make so many new friends alone from these apps, which could lead to making more friends by meeting the person from the apps friends! Maybe even a holiday romance, or a hook-up. Just be honest whilst on the app and if you think someone looks too good or sounds too good to be true, in my experience they normally are fake! Keep safe and enjoy making new friends and new memories.
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